Leading With Emotional Courage: How to Have Hard Conversations, Create Accountability, And Inspire Action On Your Most Important Work

ISBN-13: 9781119505693 / Angielski / Twarda / 2018 / 272 str.

Peter Bregman

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What makes leadership hard isn t theoretical, it s practical. It s not about knowing what to say or do. It s about whether you re willing to experience the discomfort, risk, and uncertainty of saying or doing it. The most critical challenge of leadership is having emotional courage.

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Why You Should Read this Book

ELEMENT ONE: Build Your Confidence

Part One: Be Who You Are

Chapter 1 Be Yourself

The High Cost of Conformity, and How to Avoid It

Chapter 2 Find Your Ground

Stay steady, balanced, and calm

Chapter 3 Stay Curious About Yourself

How to Ask for Feedback That Will Actually Help You

Chapter 4 Access Self–Compassion

The Problem with High Expectations

Chapter 5 Embrace Your Shadow

How to Avoid Becoming the Person You Hate

Chapter 6 It s Not All About Achievement

Stop Worrying About How Much You Matter

Part Two: Become Who You Want to Be

Chapter 7 Find Clarity

What s Your One Big Theme?

Chapter 8 Become More of Who You Are

You re Already Pretty Amazing

Chapter 9 Stay Focused

You Need to Practice Being Your Future Self

Chapter 10 Be Strategic and Intentional

5 Steps to Investing Your Energy More Wisely

Chapter 11 Don t Lose Yourself in Pursuit of Becoming Yourself

Take Your Life Back

Chapter 12 How Will You Measure Success?

Why You Should Treat Laughter as a Metric

ELEMENT TWO: Connect with Others

Part One: Be Curious and Trusting

Chapter 13 The Impact of Trust

The Real Secret of Thoroughly Excellent Companies

Chapter 14 Stay Open

How to Really Listen

Chapter 15 Stay Curious About Others

People Can t Be Summed Up by Personality Tests

Chapter 16 Stay Creative

Are You Trying to Solve the Wrong Problem?

Chapter 17 Be Useful

Hold The Baby

Chapter 18 Make People Feel Good

How Not to Lose a Sale

Part Two: Be Clear and Trustworthy

Chapter 19 Everyone is Contagious

How to Use Your Super Power for Good

Chapter 20 Use Fear as a Guide

How to Talk About What You Most Dread

Chapter 21 Start With the Punchline

How to Start a Hard Conversation

Chapter 22 Skillful Communication in the Heat of the Moment

Outsmart Your Next Angry Outburst

Chapter 23 Own Your Stuff

I Want You to Apologize

Chapter 24 Let Others Know You See Them

20 Seconds to a Better Bonus

ELEMENT THREE: Commit to Purpose

Part One: Energize Your Focus

Chapter 25 Play Hard

Nadal Is Strong Enough to Cry. Are You?

Chapter 26 Know Where You re Going

Define Your Big Arrow

Chapter 27 Focus Where It Matters

Four Areas To Focus Your Attention

Chapter 28 Use Your Focus as a Filter

Use Your First Day Back from Vacation to Energize Your Focus

Chapter 29 You Can t Say It Enough

The Mouthwash Principle: For Energized Focus, Rinse And Repeat

Chapter 30 And Sometimes It s Better to Say Less

If You Want People to Listen, Stop Talking

Part Two: Focus Their Energy

Chapter 31 Gifted, Game, and Generous

Three Qualities Every Leader Needs to Cultivate Within Their Team

Chapter 32 Engage From The Beginning

The Farm–to–Table Method of Focusing the Energy of Your Team

Chapter 33 Helping Others Be Trustworthy

The Secret to Ensuring Follow–Through

Chapter 34 Creating Accountability

Five Building Blocks For a Culture of Accountability

Chapter 35 Bigger Than You

Why Leaders Should Try to Be Overwhelmed

Chapter 36 Improving Performance After A Critical Error (PACE)

How to React When Someone Disappoints

ELEMENT FOUR: Cultivate Emotional Courage

Part One: Feel Courageously

Chapter 37 Know What You Are Feeling

Develop Your Awareness

Chapter 38 Feeling is Physical

Dance With Your Monster

Chapter 39 Practice Feeling

Embracing Temptation

Chapter 40 Feel Uncertainty

The Emotional Adventure of Leadership

Chapter 41 Be Willing to Feel the Hard Stuff

Why Leaders Must Feel Pain

Chapter 42 Feel Everything

Allow for Complexity

Part Two: Act Boldly

Chapter 43 Risk is the Key to Leadership

Unlocking Your Success Equation

Chapter 44 Build Your Risk Muscle

The Small Personal Risks That Change Behavior

Chapter 45 Make a Decision

Act Boldly to Get Moving

Chapter 46 Risk Truth

It s Your Job to Tell the Bold Truths

Chapter 47 Try Something Different

The Unexpected Power of Inauthenticity

Chapter 48 The Limitless Possibility of Now

A Question That Can Change Your Life

Epilogue

A Note to Readers

Acknowledgments

About the Author

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PETER BREGMAN is the CEO of Bregman Partners, Inc., a company that helps senior leaders create accountability and inspire collective action on their organization′s most important work. He is the bestselling author of 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done, named the best business book of the year on NPR, and selected by Publisher′s Weekly and the New York Post as a top 10 business book. He is also the author of Four Seconds: All the Time You Need to Replace Counter–Productive Habits with Ones That Really Work, a New York Post top pick for your career in 2015.

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PRAISE FOR
LEADING WITH EMOTIONAL COURAGE

"Leading with Emotional Courage is a trailblazing idea, inspirational manifesto and eminently achievable manual. Peter Bregman′s central idea, ′if you can feel everything, you can do anything′ instantly became my motto for forging more productive and rewarding relationships in every aspect of my life. It′s ingenious, it′s intuitive, and it works."
Jeffrey Seller, Four–time Tony Award winning producer of Hamilton, Rent, Avenue Q, and In the Heights

"Peter′s concept of emotional courage is a game–changer."
Marshall Goldsmith, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Triggers

"Emotional courage is the superpower of the 21st Century!"
Christine Carter, PhD, author of The Sweet Spot and Raising Happiness

"If you courageously adopt the advice in this breakthrough book, you can begin the tough conversations that lead to real change, build more trusting relationships, and perhaps even become an inspiration to others."
Daniel H. Pink, author of WHEN and DRIVE

"Peter Bregman′s book promises to free a huge cohort of leaders from the anxieties that get in the way of doing what′s right, instead of what′s easy. Finally, a book to inspire those of us who lead through the conflict inherent to organizations."
Dr. Thomas A. Kolditz, Brigadier General, US Army (ret)

"Emotional courage is the future of leadership. This important book is right on target and by the way quite different than anything I′ve heard about or read out there."
James M. Citrin, Leader, Spencer Stuart CEO Practice, Author, You′re in Charge, Now What?

"The book, laced with Bregman′s own courageous honesty and openness, will help you build your confidence, bring out the best in others, and summon the emotional courage you need to succeed as a leader."
Liz Wiseman, New York Times bestselling author of Multipliers and Rookie Smarts

"This is a brave and generous book about being brave and generous. Emotional courage isn′t about getting what we want, it′s about serving others. Peter Bregman is sharing useful magic here."
Seth Godin, author, Linchpin

"After reading this book, you will want to share it with your colleagues, your kids, and others in your life."
Asheesh Advani, CEO, Junior Achievement Worldwide