The four great enemies of love are violence, pettiness, vanity, and our reproductive agenda. If we can overcome these formidable enemies, nothing more keeps us from the vast experience of unconditional love. Starting from the raw data of evolutionary psychology and other modern research, The Authentic Lover takes us on a journey through traditional wisdom, Rumi's poetry, and the dry humor that comes from firsthand experience. A picture emerges both of the pitfalls we all face as humans, and of the corresponding opportunities we always have at hand, but rarely tap into. The...