When the U.S. military repealed -Don't Ask, Don't Tell, - its official policy on homosexuality in the services, Capt. Stephen Snyder-Hill was serving in Iraq. After years enduring the culture of fear and secrecy for gay soldiers, Snyder-Hill submitted a video to a Republican primary debate, asking the participants whether, if elected, they would extend spousal benefits to legally married gay and lesbian soldiers. His video was booed by the audience on national television.

Snyder-Hill's story riveted the nation's attention from national news shows to an episode of HBO's The...