Trauma isn't good for anyone, although poets seem to thrive on it. The more traumatic an event the more inspired they are to write about it. My best guess is that it is because the process of expressing one's feelings through writing is cathartic. So when a husband and father of three is suddenly gone, it is a boon to poetic activity. Do not be prejudicial, although Debra's book is scattered with poems about love lost, on the whole it is a very uplifting spiritually oriented book. Since Debra speaks English, basic Hindi and Arabic, she is familiar with three of the four most popular religions...