This book is a collection of essays on violence and resilience that I wrote during first half of the year 2014. A few months ago, after more than 30 years of interviewing persons who have committed violent acts, I realized that perpetrators think they are doing something good when they are violent. The people I interviewed who committed violent acts were decent men almost all of the time. They were fathers and husbands who took good care of their families, worked at responsible jobs, and enjoyed the love of respect of families and friends. Their violence was part-time but harmful to the wives...

People talk about senseless violence, but violence is not senseless to perpetrators. When people commit acts of violence, they think they are doing something good. The readings in this book show the many ways that people enjoy violence. They commit violence themselves, celebrate the violence of others, and think about things they'd like to do with others. Prevention is difficult because violence means far too much to far too many. Yet, violence causes suffering. Somehow we have to connect the joy of violence with the suffering that violence causes. Then, we might find the will and the...

We wrote this series of blogs on girls' aggression for child welfare social workers and service providers, educators, and parents. Each year, uncounted numbers of children and young people experience complex trauma, which is a series of adversities that are so upsetting that they affect mood, attention, and emotional health and also threaten healthy social, emotional, and neurological development. Children with complex trauma, such as physical and verbal abuse in combination with loss and abandonments, are at risk to behave in aggressive ways. The goal of service to young people who have...