Why can't I forgive? Jesus-Follower, you have probably been told choose to forgive the one who hurt you-intentionally give up your right to fairness. It sounds so reasonable, so Christ-like. It is well meaning but biblically flawed. Lasting forgiveness is a function of justice. It is not in your DNA to give up your right to fair treatment. God never forgives crimes until they are paid for. That is the essential work of the Cross. So why do you imagine that you can forgive without first experiencing real justice? Do you think that you can be more magnanimous than God? Your heart has been...