If you keep repeating behaviors that you know are not good for you...if you talk endlessly about your problems but never make a serious move to change them... you could be a shit shoveler. Laments like these are suggestive of the problem: " And then he cheated on me again, and I know he's not good for me, but I love him/can't leave him/ maybe this time...." " I hate my job but I can't leave now..." " It doesn't matter what diet I'm on, I gain it all back, and more. "He's thirty and not going to school or working. I told him he had to move out, but he won't leave and I can't kick him out."...