You Shouldn't Need a Life-Threatening Illness to Reclaim Your Relationship For Kenya Stevens, that is what it took. Married at age 21 to a man she had met on a blind date a few months earlier, Kenya's early years with Carl were fraught with conflict-troubles that she now understands had a lot to do with her own need to dominate and be in total control. Then came a bout with a particularly nasty, often-fatal illness, and everything changed. No longer able to control and dominate, Kenya turned to her mate. Forced to dig deeply and become vulnerable, she built her way back to physical and...