""Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." - Mark Twain"
I'm at a New Year's party with a bunch of friends, most married. Midnight is approaching, and I'm holding the tallest Bombay Sapphire and tonic I can find, because I haven't found Miss Next. A married friend remarks.
"Dude, who are you going to kiss at midnight?"
"No idea."
"Why don't you mingle and find someone?"
"Maybe I don't see anyone I'd like to kiss."
"Hey, beggars can't be choosers."
"Neither can married men."
"But..."
"Careful, lad. You...

What is Nice Guy Syndrome?

Nice Guy Syndrome is an affliction where a heterosexual male is frustrated because he finds himself caged within the friend zone of women he'd prefer to be dating. Often, he is a kind and sympathetic person who listens well, and lends a shoulder for women to cry on. He's loved and admired, but not the type of fellow women sleep with.If there is a hell, this is it, and I'm in the penthouse.

I was raised to be a nice guy. My relatives and teachers instilled in me the importance of: Treating women gentlyProtecting and providing for womenListening to women without...

Love ... Who needs it?

I don't know if this just comes with age or what, but I'm less patient with my relationships, when I should probably be more patient. The first sign of any drama, no matter how sexually starved I happen to be, and I lose her number. Perhaps this makes me unpopular with the ladies. Maybe I'm getting a reputation.Meh

What I am hoping is that by reading my take on the whole mating game, you'll have a better appreciation for whatever predicament you're in, be that anything between marital bliss and been lovin' your fist.Karma Kicked Me

Sure, I'm bitter sometimes....

So, you want a man?

Allow me to guide you through the jungle of hairy beasts.99% of your romantic relationships have failed.

You are the common denominator, so logic would say you suck at relationships.The problem isn't in the picker, it's in the picking.

In this book, I lend my expertise as the datee, not the dater. I'm the man who knows men, and how you can net the one you want (for the time being). True, we men are slightly different, so you need to approach your prey appropriately.Don't go hunting birds with hammers.

Let's say you'd like to date a married man whom, I assume,...

Relationships - Who needs them?

Relationships have become more exhausting than exhilarating. Is it just me? When I'm single, I'm prowling for my love. It's costly to my sanity and to my wallet, trying to determine if she likes me--then doing things to make her like me more (and get naked). When I'm in a relationship, I'm juggling texts, dates, her family gatherings, and baseball, doing my best to avoid disappointing my lover.Is it better to be married or single?

Do you wonder what life would be like on the other side? When married, how peaceful single life could be. When single, how...

TOUR OF NICE GUY ISLAND

You single? How's that dating thing working out for you? Getting your recommended nightly allowance of love and affection? Or are you at the point where a bottle of Pinot, a good TV series, and a pet or two are all you need?

Thirteen years of being single, after thirteen years of marriage, has left me in a peculiar place-on Nice Guy Island.

I'm not the aggressive bad boy who hooks women with his mysterious behavior. I'm polite, kind, and considerate, which translates into "fucking boring" for far too many potential mates. Hence, all my paddling away...