Imagine... If it were you, instead of him or her. would you still feel the same as you do when you are looking at it from the other side? What if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you traded places with someone and were to feel, what they felt during their experience? I found that myself and others, were missing the understanding of what people go through...how things are perceived by the victim. Also how closely related we are to the same issues, just at a different time and or event... or maybe a different scenario, but same effects. The same things that make us sad, cry, happy or...