What Would Your Sex Life Be Like If You Could Bottom Without Pain? You'd have earthshattering orgasms. You'd experience the erotic pleasure of submitting to your partner's hardness. Sex would be more interesting because you'd add a whole new dimension to it. So what stops you? Pain. Or the fear of pain. The anticipation of it. If you're like a lot of guys, you've either tried and failed to bottom because it hurt too much or you wouldn't let yourself try because of "anticipatory anxiety" -the belief that you have to go through a lot of pain to get to the pleasure of bottoming. You might also...