For the author, her main motivation in writing the book is to enable us, as she puts it, "to live our sexualities well." Her quest is practical rather than academic: how does one answer the question "What is sexuality?" in order to find the words that will make a real difference to the way we love, relate, pray and turn each other on? By establishing a definition for sex as our capacity to be aroused, and acknowledging that there are infinite ways of being sexual, Ind shows how the memories, fantasies, and yearnings of human beings, in all their glorious diversity, reflect the...