In this provocative new look at romantic relationships, psychologist Scott Wetzler explores the widespread phenomenon of misplaced anger that seems to define couple dynamics in the 1990s. He finds a wary, secretive, and combative atmosphere clouding relationships. Partners are feeling hurt and bruised by the very people with whom they are most vulnerable. In desperation and puzzlement, they are asking, "Who's at fault here? Is it you or is it me?"

What seems to be driving this "inside-out" dynamic, says Dr. Wetzler, is our increasing inability to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings that...

A New York Times Notable Book and one of USA Today's top books of the year when it was first published in 1992, "After Great Pain" remains both timely and of great use to others traumatized by disaster or grief.

Diane Cole's method is to couple the findings of professional researchers and clinicians with the story of her own heartbreaking personal experience-coping with a multitude of family illnesses and the after effects of being held hostage by Muslim extremists.

The result is a deeply affecting memoir of loss and renewal that provides guidance, consolation, and hope, as...