This book is the story of coming to terms with cultural differences (German/African/English) in a postcolonial climate. Discovering your own community's social mores via exposure to different ones enabled me to find my own identity. After receiving a BA and STD degrees from the university of CapeTown, teaching in Namibia for 6 years and then changing into therapeutic work I happened to live in Germany (2 1/2 years) UK ten years and the moved to the USA with my family in 1983. Lessons were learned also from traveling widely (India, China, Australia, South America).