Dudley D. Cahn, Ph.D., is a professor of communication at the State University of New York, College at New Paltz. He is certified by the state of New York as a mediator at the Ulster County community mediation center in New Paltz and at the Family Court in Kingston, NY. The author of "Letting Go: A Practical Theory of Relationship Disengagement and Reengagement," he is coauthor of "Communication in Interpersonal Relationships," and editor of "Intimates in Conflict: A Communication Perspective," Named a distinguished lecturer at an international communication convention in Norwich, England and