When Getting Along Is Not Enough: Reconstructing Race in Our Lives and Relationships

ISBN-13: 9780807763377 / Angielski / Miękka / 2019

Maureen Walker

Spis treści

• Contents
• Acknowledgments
• Introduction
• 1. The “It” Without a Name
• A Brief Survey of Race (as an Essentialist Concept) in America
• The Complexity of Everyday Racialized Interactions: Jo and the Clerk at the Convenience Store
• Race as a Relational Dynamic
• November Morning Redux and the “It-ness” of It All
• So Who Do You Think You Are?
• Reflections
• 2. When the Culture Hurts
• Racial Stratification
• Race and Neuroscience/Your Brain on Race
• Race and the “Dose” Effect
• Beyond the Barrier: Race Dialogues
• Systemic and Built-In Privilege
• Two Models of Human Engagement: Relational-Cultural Theory and Racial Identity Theory
• Multiple-Voiced Narratives
• Reflections
• 3. Race and Place: What’s Power Got to Do with It?
• Power and Powerlessness in Identity Narratives
• Power-Over
• Race, Place, and Power
• Reflections
• 4. Mascots, Missionaries, and Other Illusions of Power-Over
• Strategies of Disconnection
• Internalized Dominance
• Internalized Oppression
• Strategies of Disconnection and Illusions of Power-over
• Reflections
• 5. Sticks and Stones and Words That Hurt
• Aversive Racism
• Language as Codified Racism
• False Narratives
• 21st-Century Linguistic Dilemmas: The “N” Word
• Reflections
• 6. Disruptive Empathy: Beyond “I Feel Your Pain”
• Disruptive Empathy
• The ARC of Empathy
• A Story I Would Rather Not Tell
• Reflections
• 7. Mindful Authenticity
• Mindful Authenticity
• The Three C Mindset
• Mindful Authenticity and Self-Disclosure
• Mindful Authenticity and Productive Conflict
• One True Thing
• Showing Up for Your Own Truth
• Doing Authenticity: Four Simple Practices
• Holding Contradictory Truths
• Reflections
• 8. Dynamic Mutuality: Empowering Action in a Relationship
• Action in Relationship
• Understanding and Misunderstanding Dynamic Mutuality
• Dynamic Mutuality in Practice
• Dynamic Mutuality Is Not Synonymous with Compromise
• Strategies of Disconnection to Resist Dynamic Mutuality
• The Sound of One Hand Clapping and Other Caveats
• Reflections
• 9. Say It Isn’t So . . . and Other Race-Card Games
• Ideological Force Fields
• The “Silencers”
• A Few More Words about Race-Card Games
• Reflections
• 10. Nine Rules for Remaking the Meaning of Race
• Five Good Things: Clarity, Creativity, Zest, A Sense of Mattering, and A Desire for More Connection
• Rule 1: Pay attention to your body: Pause, then breathe your way into new racial narratives.
• Rule 2: Become curious about the multiple racial narratives in your head. You don’t have to believe or act on them.
• Rule 3: If you find yourself becoming highly reactive in a racialized encounter, ask yourself if some deep background story from your own life is getting triggered.
• Rule 4: Acknowledge the necessity of good conflict, and then give yourself permission to set the terms of the interaction.
• Rule 5: Recognize when “wanting to win” is driving the interaction.
• Rule 6: When an interaction approaches an impasse, say one true thing.
• Rule 7: Question the norms . . . notice what surprises you.
• Rule 8: Be willing to learn.
• Rule 9: Know when to walk away.
• Reflections
• 11. An Enlarged Vision of Human Possibility
• About Allies and Racial Privilege
• Remaking the Meaning of Race in Our Lives: A Few Final Words
• References
• Index
• About the Author