"The chapters are very interesting and consistently well written. Each will be useful to graduate students and researchers interested in a specific subdomain. Where relevant literature has accumulated, the contributors have done a good job of representing what is known and highlighting areas where inquiry should proceed." (Brian H. Stagner, PsycCRITIQUES, Vol. 62 (6), April, 2017)
"Psychoanalysts and existential psychologists have long theorized the 'coexistence of love and hate' in intimate relationships. ... the goal of this title is to gather the work of those who have done so. ... the work is split into two parts: one section on love, and the other on hate. ... Summing Up: Recommended. All readers." (J. Ostenson, Choice, Vol. 54 (5), January, 2017)
Chapter 1. Introduction to the Psychology of Love and Hate in Intimate Relationships by Katherine Aumer
Love
Love
Chapter 2. Unweaving the rainbow of human sexuality: A review of one-night stands, serious romantic relationships, and the relationship-space in between by Peter Jonason and Rhonda
Chapter 3. The Importance and Meaning of Sexual Fantasies in Intimate Relationships by Ali Ziegler and Terri Conley
Chapter 4. The Science of Female Orgasms: Pleasing Female Partners in Casual and Long-term Relationships by Jes Matsick, Terri Conley, and Amy Moors
Chapter 5. Passionate Love: Inspired by Angels or Demons? by Elaine Hatfield, Cyrille Feybesse, Victoria Narine, and Richard L. Rapson
Hate
Chapter 6. Your Pain, My Gain: The Interpersonal Context of Sadism by Chris Burris and Rebecca Leitch
Chapter 7. Hate: Theory and Implications for Intimate Relationships by John Rempel and Siobhan Sutherland
Chapter 8. Hate in Intimate Relationships as a Self-Protective Emotion by Katherine Aumer and Anne Cathrine Krebs Bahn
Chapter 9. We Hate what we Fear: Interpersonal Hate from a Clinical Perspective by Jerrold Lee Shapiro
Dr. Katherine Aumer is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at the Hawaii Pacific University, in Honolulu, HI. She received her PhD from the University of Texas, Austin. She has conducted research in the areas of emotion, relationship satisfaction, and racial identity. She is currently conducting research on sexual identity and personality in long term relationships.
Social psychology has made great advancements in understanding how our romantic relationships function and to some extent, dissolve. However, the social and behavioral sciences in much of western scholarship often focus exclusively on the more positive aspects of intimate relationships--and less so on more controversial or unconventional aspects. The goal of this volume is to explore and illuminate some of these underrepresented aspects: aspects such as non-monogamy, female orgasm, sadism, and hate, that often function alongside love in intimate relationships. Ultimately, by looking at intimate relationships in this way, the volume contributes to and advocates for a more holistic and comprehensive view of intimate relationships.
Throughout the volume, contributors from social, clinical, and evolutionary psychology cover love, lust, and hate from a variety of (sometimes opposing) perspectives. First, section 1 covers love and the changing landscape of romantic relationships. Its chapters review the current literature of the interaction between love, sex, and relationships, including the impact of technology on relationships. Then, the second section explores hate and how hate can operate in romantic relationships--for example, the appearance of sadistic behavior and lack of satisfaction. The volume concludes, however, by looking at ways in which the appearance of hate in relationships can be dealt with and overcome successfully. Taken together, these two sections reflect the full variety of experiences within intimate relationships. With the aim of exploring how love and hate can-and frequently do-work together, The Psychology of Love and Hate in Intimate Relationships is a fascinating psychological exploration of intimate relationships in modern time. It is an invaluable resource to academics and students specializing in psychology, gender, and sociology, clinicians and therapists, and all those interested in increasing our knowledge of intimate relationships.