The Listening That Happens Before Words Ever Reach You

ISBN-13: 9783565203642 / Angielski / Miękka / 228 str.

Sarah Whitfield

Opis

Active listening isn't a technique-it's a state of presence. It's not about remembering what someone said or waiting for your turn to speak. It's about regulating your own nervous system enough to hold space for someone else's experience without fixing, defending, or redirecting. Most listening fails not because of poor skills but because of unexamined reactivity.This book explores why genuine listening feels difficult, examining the role of emotional triggers, defensiveness, advice-giving impulses, and the discomfort of sitting with another person's pain without resolving it. It draws on communication research and attachment theory to reframe listening not as passive reception but as active emotional labor that requires self-awareness and regulation.Rather than offering scripts or communication formulas, it examines what happens inside you while someone else is speaking-the impulse to interrupt, the urge to compare, the need to reassure, the discomfort with silence. It explores the difference between hearing words and receiving meaning, between responding and reacting, between empathy and projection.For those who struggle to stay present in difficult conversations, who notice they're planning responses instead of listening, or who want connection but keep creating distance through well-intentioned advice, this book offers insight into the inner work that makes real listening possible.

Real listening isn't about better responses-it's about quieting your own reactivity long enough to receive someone else's truth.