The Argument You Keep Having Is About Something Else Entirely

ISBN-13: 9783565119493 / Angielski / Miękka / 248 str.

Wesley Prescott

Opis

You and your partner argue about the same things over and over. Money, housework, time together, priorities-the topics change, but the pattern stays the same. You fight, one of you shuts down or gives in, tension lingers, and nothing actually gets resolved. Weeks or months later, the same issue resurfaces and you fight again. The frustrating part is you sense there is something deeper happening beneath these surface arguments, but you cannot quite name it. This cycle is exhausting, and it slowly erodes your relationship because conflicts are never truly settled, just postponed.The problem is not that you argue. Healthy couples argue. The problem is that most couples do not know how to look beneath the surface complaint to find the real issue, and without addressing that, no resolution ever sticks. This book reveals why arguments spiral, what you are actually fighting about beneath the words, and shows you the exact framework used by couples who break the cycle and emerge from conflict with stronger connection.You will learn how to recognize the patterns that keep you trapped in repetitive arguments, how to decode what your partner is really feeling beneath their words, and how to identify the core issue hiding beneath the surface complaint. The book walks you through understanding your own triggers and vulnerabilities, how to express what you are really needing without attacking your partner, and how to listen for the legitimate need beneath your partner's anger or frustration. You will discover how to pause before escalation takes over, how to separate the real issue from the surface complaint, and how to have conversations that actually address what matters instead of just rehashing the same surface argument.

Most couples fight the same battle repeatedly because the surface argument is never the real issue. This book teaches you how to find what you're actually fighting about and finally resolve it.