"Dr. Lis is an inspiration. Her book helps shine a light on so many topics that have been otherwise ignored, cloaked in silence, and masked with shame. My life's work is centered around combatting public health epidemics by treating depression, and creating tools for suicide prevention. Dr. Lis and I share the same vision: that suffering is treatable and lives can be saved if we break down barriers of stigma, shame and misunderstanding that have existed across generations. No Shame helps finally bring critical topics to the surface, normalizing issues that should have never been defined by shame. It will help kids learn to express their boundaries, and instil sex positive beliefs to foster resiliency. This is an indispensable guide to navigating the challenges of bringing up kids in today's world." -Dr. Kelly Posner Gerstenhaber, recipient of the Department of Defense Medal for Exceptional Public Service and Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University
"Refreshingly contemporary, No Shame addresses how parents can help kids navigate conflicts and the challenges of growing up in the world of #MeToo and social media." -Cristina Cuomo, founder and editor of The Purist
"Dr. Lea Lis' brilliant book explains that when parents own their sexual story, it allows them to pass down intergenerational wisdom-not trauma. No Shame addresses the prevalent shame and fear around sexuality, and Dr. Lis' fresh approach to communication with children on those awkward topics gives parents the tools they need to help their kids develop body positivity, self-esteem, and healthy romantic relationships." -Dr. Shefali Tsabary, bestselling author of The Conscious Parent
"Dr. Lea Lis provides parents with a field manual of evidence-based practices to help us discuss the dos and don'ts of relationships, intimacy, and sex with our kids. Drawing on her decades of work in the trenches as a clinician and her own experiences as a parent, the Shameless Psychiatrist has given us a treasure trove of tools and techniques that you will come back to again and again." -Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, author of Born to Be Wild, professor at NYU Grossman School of Medicine, and host of About Our Kids
"I wish I'd had a book like this that brought up vocabulary and ways to talk to your kids about self-confidence, boundaries, and healthy relationships when I was raising my kids." -Susan Sarandon, Actor and Activist
"Dr. Lea Lis has written the modern guide on talking to kids about sex. Part parent, part sex therapist, and part coach, Dr. Lis addresses countless topics parents often shy away from simply because they're uncomfortable; her guidance is both sound and sage, backed by science and written with tact and grace. No Shame helps us separate fact from fiction in healthy child sexual development." -Goali Saedi Bocci, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist and author of The Millennial Mental Health Toolbox
"Dr. Lea Lis offers parents many practical insights on when, why, and how to engage in open and developmentally appropriate conversations about sexuality. If the thought of talking with your child about sex makes you uncomfortable, this book is for you." -William C. Wood, MD, clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine
An Introduction to Shameless Psychiatry The what, why, & how of positive parenting Who is the Shameless Psychiatrist? Mind hacking To be right, or to be effective . . . Parenting styles & strategiesThe Power 9 The need for a primary caregiver When you "stay together for the child" How to incorporate the opposite-sex role model The case for a "father" role model in a girl's healthy development Don't leave out the pleasure talk!!! Don't leave out the consent talk! Not just the opposite-sex role model is important Relationship 101: how to handle conflict How to help your angry and irritable teen Be your own bestie! Having a great relationship with oneself Create rituals Creating a gentle man Great relationships with the other humans of the world
5 Sexual Initiation Sort out sex and romance by teaching rational love Flirting training Get rejected The evolution and neurobiology of sex-and how it pertains to your kids . . . Explain emotional and physiological effects of sex Under pressure xxx Hookups! Etiquette! Anal! Address the Awkward
6 Annihilating the Risks Do you know how to use the tech your child uses? Take inventory (on social media) Keep an eye out for cyberbullying Dispel distorted myths (caused by pornography) Lead with the legalities (on sexting) Instill "No friend left behind" (with drugs and partying)
7 Teaching Radical Inclusion for Gender,Sexual, and Family Identities and Expressions Gender and sexual identity and expression Great relationships start with great role models What to do if you suspect your child is outside the box When your family is outside the box
8 A Parent's Ongoing Sexual Story How your sexual story affects your child Parent disclosures to children Avoid oversharing Nontraditional families and parent disclosure: one family's story Blender, banner, & chameleon: family disclosuresto the world To disclose or not to disclose
9 Parental ConflictDivorce Moving between households Dealing with an ex's new partner and parental arrangements Dating & introducing new partners Stepparenting tips
10 Boost and Embolden Self-Esteem in Your Child Feed them well Help them rest well Get them moving Practice radical self-acceptance Practice meditating early on Breathe. Relax.
Lis, LeaLea Lis is the Shameless Psychiatrist. She is a double board certified adult and child psychiatrist who has been working with non-traditional family arrangements since the beginning of her psychiatric career. Dr Lis helps parents, children, and adolescents face challenges and develop healthy, sex-positive attitudes and practices in their lives. In her own private psychiatric practice (Mindful Kid) she has developed expertise in working with modern families of all types. She has appeared as an expert on parenting in programming by ABC, CBS, NBC, and other news outlets, as well as newspapers such as The Chicago Tribune and The Washington Post. She is active in the American Psychiatric Association, having served as a member of their National Ethics Committee and on the Board of Trustees, and her publications have appeared in the Journal of Psychiatric Practice and the Journal of Academic Psychiatry.