ISBN-13: 9781516902590 / Angielski / Miękka / 2015 / 56 str.
What is mindfulness, really? Honestly, I don't know the answer to that question. And I doubt you do, either. When Jon Kabat-Zinn introduced the term "mindfulness" to the general public a few decades ago, he was attempting to incorporate Buddhist meditation practices with modern medical psychology and medicine. Kabat-Zinn's ideas were intriguing and effective, especially given the rather conservative setting in which he was applying his advice. But we're a long way from Full Catastrophe Living. And the mindfulness movement is far removed from Kabat-Zinn's original ideas on the subject. Frankly, when most people use the term "mindfulness" today, it means next to nothing. Here's the unglamorous truth about the mindfulness movement that most of us don't want to acknowledge: if we objectively watch our thoughts - and don't emotionally intercede with them - we'll probably observe ourselves having the same cycles of good thoughts and bad thoughts, repeating themselves again and again. If we meditate in such a way - without attempting to refine our thoughts, and instead simply letting them "be" - we'll often notice the same emotional cycles of our thinking recurring over the course of many months, and sometimes even years. Objective, nonjudgmental meditation makes us quite aware of this. Our specific thoughts will change - but we'll still usually have the same up and down emotional cycles within our thinking, regardless of the specific thoughts. If this sounds somewhat unappealing, boring and unproductive...that's because it usually is. I spent over a decade of my life meditating in such a way, and even once spent a year living at a Buddhist center to focus on meditation intensively. I put a lot of time into trying to be mindful. And all this effort did not make me any more mindful. Now, I'm not necessarily saying anything bad about meditation, or even practicing mindfulness in such a way. But I am saying that if you expect to get anything from it, you're definitely choosing the wrong path. As the wonderful Zen monk Kodo Sawaki pointedly said, "Meditation is about loss." Most of us are sick of loss, and losing. I know I am. We want to actually win sometimes. We've experienced enough loss already. We're totally disinterested in it; we've had enough lessons in losing already in life, thank you very much. Most of us meditators are so used to getting less, and we're quietly desperate to find out a way to get more in our life instead - even if we say we aren't. It's not that we're greedy; the problem actually might be that we're suffering by pretending to be too humble. We mistakenly think that's what Buddhism and mindfulness is all about - mindfully living through suffering. So we inadvertently suffer some more, and make it even tougher on ourselves. This happens in part because we have trouble admitting what we actually want in life. But we shouldn't feel defeated and dissolute like this. And we can't just sit there and expect for anything to change after all this time when nothing's changed. It won't. We need a new approach. So I suggest we think about what we really want in life. Once we start having an idea about what we actually want in life then we can start finding it within ourselves. This is the kind of approach to mindfulness I can fully endorse. Decide what you would like in your life, and then start to feel it within yourself. This might sound confusing, but bear with me. Everything will soon get clearer. First remember this: mindfulness shouldn't be about loss; it should be about gain. The purpose of mindfulness should be to attain what you desire. Otherwise you're just wasting your time. This guide is going to show you how to stop wasting your time, and actually start getting what you want in life.