Empty Nesting: Reinventing Your Marriage When the Kids Leave Home

ISBN-13: 9780787960414 / Angielski / Miękka / 2001 / 384 str.

David Arp; Claudia Arp; Scott M. Stanley

Opis

Fighting forYour Empty Nest-Marriage offers clear-cut instructions for dealing with one of the most difficult periods in any marriage. . .the transition period when the children leave home. Based on the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP) and the results of a national survey of long-term married couples, this warm and helpful guide is brimming with practical suggestions and wisdom for learning to let-go of the kids and preserving the sense of commitment, love, partnership, sensuality and fun within a marriage.

Spis treści

Acknowledgments ix

Before You Begin: A Personal Note from David and Claudia Arp xiii

Part I: Understanding Your Empty Nest Marriage

1. Meet the Second Marriage of Your Marriage 1

2. Letting Go and Moving On 21

3. Becoming Partner Focused 41

Part II: Handling Conflict in the Empty Nest

4. Communication and Conflict: Four Danger Signs 59

5. Talking It Out: The Speaker–Listener Technique 81

6. Getting Beneath the Surface: Issues Versus Events 105

7. Problem Solving 131

8. Ground Rules for Handling Conflict 159

Part III: Dealing with Empty Nest Issues

9. When What We Want Isn′t What We Get 183

10. Applying the Glue of Commitment 203

11. Core Beliefs and Developing Siprtual Intimacy 225

12. Relating to Adult Children and ging Parents 241

Part IV: Feathering Your Own Empty Nest

13. Becoming Empty Nest Lovers 265

14. Building Your Friendship 283

15. Having Fun When the Nest Empties 297

16. Keeping Your Relationship Strong 311

Research References and Further Reading 327

Finding a Counselor When You Need One 333

Resources and Training 337

Survey Results and Problem Ranking 341

The Authors 343

Index 345

O autorze

Claudia S. Arp and David H. Arp marriage educators, authors, trainers, and seminar leaders–are the cofounders and codirectors of Marriage Alive International, Inc. They are the authors of numerous books including the 1997 Gold Medallion Award winner, The Second Half of Marriage (1996).

Scott M. Stanley, Howard J. Markman and Susan L. Blumberg developed the world–famous Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP). They are the coauthors of Fighting for Your Marriage, A Lasting Promise, Fighting for Your Jewish Marriage, and Becoming Parents.

Blurb

The cofounders of Marriage Alive International and the developers of the acclaimed Prevention and Relationship Program (PREP) have joined together to create this much–needed guidebook to help empty nest couples prepare for the next stage in their relationship. This enlightening book helps empty nest couples focus on positive change within their relationships and offers solid advice for learning the skills needed to have a more fulfilling and intimate relationship than was possible during the hectic parenting years.

"Bravo! This book is brimming with practical suggestions and good advice for couples who want to make the second half of their marriage the best half."
David Blankenhorn, president, Institute for American Values, and author, Fatherless America

"This book is the step–by–step, can′t miss, user–friendly guide to having it all–to sharing the happiest time of any marriage with the love of your life. It should be required reading for all those about to embark on the empty–nest journey."
Diane Sollee, founder and director, Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education

"A team of top–notch marriage savers offers first aid for marriages facing one of life′s most disorienting transitions. Their advice is practical and up–beat. It is refreshing to read a book about marriage written by people who don′t just believe in marriage but actually understand how it works."
Frank Pittman, M.D., author of Private Lies and Grow Up