Empathy as Embodied Presence, Not Emotional Labor

ISBN-13: 9783565204922 / Angielski / Miękka / 236 str.

Celeste Rowan

Opis

Empathy isn't about taking on someone else's pain or fixing their problems. It's not about being endlessly available or sacrificing your wellbeing to prove you care. Real empathy is the capacity to feel with someone without losing yourself in their experience-to witness their emotions without needing to change, solve, or carry them.This book explores what empathy actually requires, examining the difference between genuine connection and emotional enmeshment, between compassion and codependency. It draws on attachment research and nervous system science to show why some people feel too much while others struggle to feel at all, and how both patterns often stem from the same wound: unclear boundaries around emotional experience.Rather than treating empathy as an innate trait you either have or don't, it examines empathy as a skill that depends on self-regulation, emotional literacy, and the ability to hold space without collapsing into rescue or avoidance. It explores why feeling deeply doesn't mean you're responsible for fixing, why presence matters more than solutions, and why your own emotional clarity is what makes connection possible.For those who feel drained by others' emotions, who confuse empathy with self-sacrifice, or who want deeper connection without losing themselves, this book offers insight into what empathy looks like when it's grounded in both openness and boundaries.

True empathy doesn't ask you to carry someone else's pain-it asks you to witness it without fixing or fleeing.