Lesbian Ex-Lovers : The Really Long-Term Relationships

ISBN-13: 9781560232834 / Angielski / Miękka / 2004 / 255 str.

Jacqueline S. Weinstock; Esther D. Rothblum

Opis

Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship. Topics of interest in Lesbian Ex-Lovers include: the roles ex-lovers play in our lives ex-lovers as contexts for change and development how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers letting go and moving on ex-lovers as current friends and family themes of betrayal and loss of faith reconstructing friendships and community the mystique of the ex-lover friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers "Rather than totally scrap a relationship, we recycle it-from lover to ex-lover to friend in a relatively short half-life." Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian's ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community. Lesbian Ex-Lovers offers advice, anecdotes, and interpretations from such authors, poetesses, and artists as: Michelle Gibson, PhD-educator and editor of Femme/Butch: New Considerations of the Way We Want to Go- who says goodbye to her lover in a sad, passionate elegy Marny Hall-Psychotherapist, editor of the anthology Sexualities, and author of several books, including The Lavender Couch: A Consumer's Guide to Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gay Men-who muses on the unique bonding between lesbians and their ex-lovers, lending a mystique that surrounds the lesbian lifestyle Alison Bechdel-creator of the comic strip Dykes to Watch Out For-who presents a humorous comic str

Spis treści

• INTRODUCTION
  
• Lesbian Ex-Lover Relationships: Under-Estimated, Under-Theorized and Under-Valued? (Jacqueline S. Weinstock)
  
• “THE CHANGER AND THE CHANGED”: EX-LOVERS AS CONTEXTS FOR DEVELOPMENT
  
• To All the Girls I Left Before (Alison Bechdel)
  
• Tenth Anniversary (Jill Stranger)
  
• Coming Out of My Closet (Barbara Brown)
  
• In My Dream: My Ex-Lovers’ Unconventional Convention (Pat Pomerleau Chávez)
  
• These Most Difficult Tasks (Karen Heise)
  
• Passion (Marilyn Lee)
  
• MOVING COSTS: CHALLENGES OF (RE)DEFINING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND DEALING WITH UNFINISHED BUSINESS
  
• Still the One (Susan McCully)
  
• Loading Up the U-Haul: Traveling the Spaces Between Friends and Lovers (Tammie M. Kennedy)
  
• Daring to Take the Risk (Myra Betschild and Adrienne Fortanier)
  
• Family Affairs (L. J. “Tess” Tessier)
  
• Highly Favored Ex (Gina Perille)
  
• For Emily, Many Years Too Late/Years Later, in Another City, I Still Think of Her (Renny Christopher)
  
• TOO MUCH TSORAS? THE HIGH COSTS OF MAINTAINING TIES
  
• Truth, Dreams and the Li(v)es Between (Marilyn Lee)
  
• Temporary Temptation (Cecilia Stanton)
  
• Lost Love (Renny Christopher)
  
• Neurotic Love Letters (tatiana de la tierra)
  
• Goodbye to My Lover (Michelle Gibson)
  
• Leaving Liza (Jane Futcher)
  
• Lesbian Ex-Lovers by the Numbers: A Reflective but Not Contemplative Love Poem of Sorts (Dr. Dyke)
  
• NOT LOVERS BUT NOT “JUST FRIENDS”: RECONSTRUCTING FAMILIES, FRIENDSHIPS, AND COMMUNITIES
  
• PERSONAL STORIES
  
• I’m Not Lisa (Kate Brown)
  
• The House on Transcript Avenue (Bernadette Barton)
  
• The Politics of Potlucks (Barbara Esrig)
  
• Family Doggerel (Becky Thacker)
  
• The Visit (Marilyn Lee)
  
• Irritating and Constricting/Elating and Elastic—Being “Ex” as a Lesbian (Fe Day)
  
• THEORETICAL REFLECTIONS
  
• Consummated Friends and Ex-Wives: Two Types of Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Tabitha Eden)
  
• When Three’s a Crowd: Ex-Lovers and Lesbian Families in 2 Girls in Love (Kelly McWilliam)
  
• Making the Transition: Understanding the Longevity of Lesbian Relationships (Susan B. Fitzgerald)
  
• Lesbian FLEX-ibility: Friend and/or Family Connections Among Lesbian Ex-Lovers (Jacqueline S. Weinstock)
  
• AFTERWORD
  
• The Migration of the Mythic Lesbian (Marny Hall)
  
• Index

O autorze

Esther D Rothblum, Jacqueline Weinstock