Your boundaries are doing only one thing - trying to take care of you. See authors TEDx talk: https: //www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtsHUeKnkC8 - This book provides easy to follow examples and a step by step process to let your boundaries do their job. It is based on tried and true methods developed to help people working on boundary issues. The book provides a way to apply the information to your own life to deal with the emotions, stress, extreme challenges to your boundaries, and how to really do self-care.